style does not define gender

Emmy Furman, Ad Manager

   Appearance is important in our modern world, and how you present yourself in front of others shows a lot about your inner character.

   Though as humans we often judge books by their covers, certain things cannot be determined by appearance. One of these is sexuality or gender.

   A common topic within the LGBTQA+ community is the saying “Oh, you do not look gay.” While the person saying this may not mean harm, it still is unnecessary and invasive. The problem with this statement is that gay does not have a specific look, just as straight does not either. Style is style, and does not equal your sexuality.

   Going off of this issue, another common offensive statement is targeted towards the trans community. “I could not even tell.”

   While to cisgendered people this may seem like a compliment, it is not. All trans people are beautiful and valid; their existence means more than their gender.

   Another issue with this statement is that it hints that the trans community is only valid if they look cisgendered.

   The truth about these mindsets is that they are often the reason people are misgendered or disrespected.

   Along with this comes the conversation about androgyny and non-binary people. This has been a huge topic recently since non-binary has become a sort of third gender.

   This is not what non-binary truly is, though. The definition is a person who does not fit within a gender binary.

   Non-binary people can have long hair and a beard, or short hair and a “petite figure.” Just because they may have features that society sees as masculine or feminine, that does not mean that they are either.

   Anyone can wear a dress in heels and not be a woman, and the same with a tux.

   Plus, remember, gay people have no specific look; all trans people are valid, and non-binary people do not owe anyone androgyny. Respect people’s pronouns, regardless of their appearance.